By Matata Mercy
Recently, I got the shock of my life when my photos surfaced on social media in compromising situations.
Image credit:An embarrassment by Gemini.
It was the most embarrassing moment I have ever faced and hope to in the near future.
After that incident, I felt like burying my head in the sand and never looking up again.
I later picked up some great lessons from that experience.
Today, I would like to share with you some of the practical lessons that I learnt from that experience on handling those embarrassing moments that we might come across.
1.Stay calm.
I know what you might be thinking what it means to stay calm when each and everything around you is just crashing and breaking up and it feels like there is no way around it.
I do understand this situation perfectly well.
When my photos surfaced on social media, I was caught unaware and all of a sudden I was elevated to celebrity status of sort without doing anything tangible worth deserving recognition.
It is hard to be a celebrity when you are broke like me, it gets better when you have money in the bank.
At least, you can use the money to help you escape the situations that you do not like and not only situations but also people that are irritating.
With information travelling at lightening speed in this age of social media, anything can happen to anyone.
The sad thing is that some people are using social media in the wrong way according to my own opinion.
I do not know what runs in their minds but my own convictions tell me that we should use these social media platforms to the inspire, motivate and encourage other human beings to live up to their potential.
I have a belief that when we lift others up, not only do we end up transforming their future but we also end up transforming humanity as a whole.
For my case, after the release of my photos by unscrupulous people, walking on the streets became a challenge for me and even leaving the house became so hard because of how people could stare at me.
I remember strolling up and down a long a certain street in Kampala and after hours and hours, I decided to move back home and ended up in depression.
While in my bed,I developed a thought that changed the whole outlook of all that happened and I told myself, Iam not going to keep panicking all the time.
I am going to stay calm and think through this whole situation so that I can develop a solution for it.
From my own observation, that is the best mode of state that we should be in when we are faced with any challenging situation.
We should not allow our emotions to take over us simply because when your emotions take over you, you are bound to make more mistakes.
The haters who try to tarnish our image will use these mistakes as tools to exploit us.
We are lucky to be humans,and as humans we have capable brains more advanced than that of other animals out there.
If you can just sit down, and think through the different situations and problems that you face.
I guarantee you, that you are bound to find solutions to these problems and situations.
Or at least, some alternative ways in which you can conduct yourself to help control the damage that could be caused by the hatred of others out there who might be doing things either out of jealousy or pure hatred.
2.Do not tell it all to anyone.
You might believe that everyone around you is good,but that is not the case truth betold.
Not everyone around you wants the best for you.
One lesson I learnt from my experience is that some people are out there to exploit you, get their hands on what you have.
The most important thing is that do not reveal everything to anyone, some things are better kept secret and just to your heart.
The haters will use whatever you give them to destroy you.
When some things are kept hidden in your heart, no one can use them against you.
3.Think before you act.
One reason why I ended up in an embarrassing situation is that I acted before thinking through.
When people around me whom I trusted said something, I would just jump into action without thinking about the consequences and also other alternatives that are available to me.
I have learnt the hard way that you need to use your brain first before taking action.
Weigh in your options and find out the best thing to do depending on the situation at hand. This will protect you from making mistakes that people who hate you can use against you.
4.Ignore the moment.
When something happens to you, you can either take it serious by giving it attention or you can just ignore it and let it slide away.
One thing I learnt is that anything that we give attention to grows.
So if you find yourself in an embarrassing moment and you decide to ignore and let the situation slide past, it will have no power over you and people will think this just happened quickly and flew past them.
You have the power to let things go by and no one will remember them.
If you ensure that you do not repeat the same mistakes again, you will be fine.
The haters will struggle and I believe will eventually give up on you.
Goodluck.🤦😣🥺😳
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