By Matata Mercy
When I was still in college, I had lots of dreams.
I had high hopes of making it big after college ,i thought i would get a job pretty easily since i was pursuing an engineering course.
I hoped to make lots of money, build a house, buy a car and get married. Later on i discovered all that was a dream.
It truly became a dream a few years after leaving college when i realised that having a degree doesnot guarantee you a job and money.
But some how things are beginning to get better.
As Steve Jobs said that sometimes life will hit you on the head with a brick.
That time i was already hit. I was out of college, unemployed and not married.
I was at the mercy of my parents who were giving me a roof over my head.
I was going to be homeless so i had to behave myself and be a good child. Sometimes life can prove to be hard.
May be you are unemployed as a result of the covid-19 pandemic or you have been dumped by your lover.
Whatever you are going through, i feel your pain.
Today I would like to share with you some tips that will help you to rise up again after your downfall.
1.Allow yourself to feel the pain.
When something nasty happens to you will be shocked.
It might be difficult for you to accept the reality and come to terms with what has happened.
You might try to escape reality by using drugs or just ignoring the truth.
This might help for a short period of time but after you have sobered up from the drugs and you have returned to reality from the distraction.
You will realize that you are still in the same mess that you earlier on were in.
Still unemployed and divorced,nothing changed.
The first step is to accept reality and allow yourself to feel the pain.
Feel the anger, the frustration, the shame and the embarrasment.
After all the emotions have departed,you will be fine and feel relieved.
2. Ensure that your needs are being met.
When you hit rock bottom life can get tough sometimes. Meeting your basic needs can be hard.
You might find it difficult to feed yourself or even you might lose your home.
If you have ever heard about Abraham Maslow's theory of hierachy of needs where you will need to meet your basic needs like food,clothing and shelter first, before seeking safety and self actualisation.
Make sure that you are okay with these needs.
Then you can focus on rebuilding yourself like getting a new job or starting a new business.
Or even finding love again after a breakup.
3.Become the driver of your life.
When you discover that everything around you is crushing and all is not well, it will force you to believe that life is happening to you.
All these things could be happening to you because you are not taking control of your life.
May be somebody close to you has been making most of the decisions in your life.
This could be your mother,father or even your spouse. It is now time for you to make the big decisions in your life yourself.
4.Do what you love
Hitting rock bottom can be painful.
The best thing you can do for yourself is to immerse yourself into doing the things you enjoy.
For my case, i love writing and i enjoy it everyday. Writing makes me feel alive.
Find out what you enjoy doing. It could be music or painting. This will bring back joy in your life.
5. Share your gift with the world.
Lastly,you need to share your gift with the world. Your gift is that which you do effortlessly.
Something you enjoy. Share your gift be it music, a painting or an article.
If people love it well and good. It simply means these people connect with you and understand you.
If people don't love it, it is also okay. Good luck.
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