By Matata Mercy
Do you always go with the beliefs of others and what they think will work and what will actually not work?
If you do then you will most likely end up suffering from what i can actually call imaginary failures.
When i talk of imaginary failures i simply mean that a person declares that he or she has been defeated without even putting in much effort into whatever he or she would like to achieve or the goals and dreams that they would love to accomplish.
For example someone who has not even bothered to apply for any single job declares that there are actually no jobs.
The truth of the matter is that the jobs are there but they are actually very hard to get since the competition for these jobs is very stiff.
So before you conclude that there are no jobs, you should be in position to ask yourself, how many job opportunities have you looked for through the newspapers, websites that usually publish these job opportunities?
How often have you gone on to check the noticeboards of the different companies or corporations that you would like to work at? How many jobs have you applied for and have actually been rejected?
How many interveiws have you done and were not called back? Even if you have received very many rejections, what else did you do to increase your chances of landing the job next time?
Did you try to improve your skills by learning something new that you could be able to add onto your resume or not? If you are not careful, you might actually be holding a belief that is not true. What you might see clearly in others might not actually be true for you.
Therefore it is actually a very wise decision for you to testm question and also be able to identify some of the numerous assumptions that you have had and seen to see whether they are actually true.
If you are claiming that you cannot be able to build a fulfilling relationship, then have you actually tried hard enough to build a fulfilling relationship?
How many rejections have you actually got from the numerous attempts that you have made? Can you be able to produce a record of the real rejections and failures that you encountered? Show those records to us! Or you actually just replaced your efforts with imaginary failures?
You should be very careful about placing limits on what is actually possible for reality to deliver for you. You might actually make reality to honor those limitations that are self-imposed. What if you were in position to actually ditch those limitations?
What you were actually in position to invite those experiences that were violating those limits, just to be able to find out what would happen?
What if you took actions that were opposing those old assumptions? Just may be the assumptions that you do have on your mind are actually correct. But you will be able to find that out very soon if you continue testing them out.
Reality may just knock you down and you end up running into real obstacles that you cannot be able to pass.
You should ensure that this is what you are actually doing out there? Making sure that the obstacles that you are facing are actually real obstacles.
You should be dealing with real problems that are showing up. You should stop making decisions for reality and stop creating imaginary and then end up mistaking them to be the real ones.
Harsh criticism coming from your parents is not a real obstacle, Fear is also not a real obstacle , imposter syndrome is also not a real obstacle.
You should be running into real obstacles and then dealing with them. When was the last time you faced real failure instead of replacing it with your imaginary failures?
Do you always go with the beliefs of others and what they think will work and what will actually not work?
If you do then you will most likely end up suffering from what i can actually call imaginary failures.
When i talk of imaginary failures i simply mean that a person declares that he or she has been defeated without even putting in much effort into whatever he or she would like to achieve or the goals and dreams that they would love to accomplish.
For example someone who has not even bothered to apply for any single job declares that there are actually no jobs.
The truth of the matter is that the jobs are there but they are actually very hard to get since the competition for these jobs is very stiff.
So before you conclude that there are no jobs, you should be in position to ask yourself, how many job opportunities have you looked for through the newspapers, websites that usually publish these job opportunities?
How often have you gone on to check the noticeboards of the different companies or corporations that you would like to work at? How many jobs have you applied for and have actually been rejected?
How many interveiws have you done and were not called back? Even if you have received very many rejections, what else did you do to increase your chances of landing the job next time?
Did you try to improve your skills by learning something new that you could be able to add onto your resume or not? If you are not careful, you might actually be holding a belief that is not true. What you might see clearly in others might not actually be true for you.
Therefore it is actually a very wise decision for you to testm question and also be able to identify some of the numerous assumptions that you have had and seen to see whether they are actually true.
If you are claiming that you cannot be able to build a fulfilling relationship, then have you actually tried hard enough to build a fulfilling relationship?
How many rejections have you actually got from the numerous attempts that you have made? Can you be able to produce a record of the real rejections and failures that you encountered? Show those records to us! Or you actually just replaced your efforts with imaginary failures?
You should be very careful about placing limits on what is actually possible for reality to deliver for you. You might actually make reality to honor those limitations that are self-imposed. What if you were in position to actually ditch those limitations?
What you were actually in position to invite those experiences that were violating those limits, just to be able to find out what would happen?
What if you took actions that were opposing those old assumptions? Just may be the assumptions that you do have on your mind are actually correct. But you will be able to find that out very soon if you continue testing them out.
Reality may just knock you down and you end up running into real obstacles that you cannot be able to pass.
You should ensure that this is what you are actually doing out there? Making sure that the obstacles that you are facing are actually real obstacles.
You should be dealing with real problems that are showing up. You should stop making decisions for reality and stop creating imaginary and then end up mistaking them to be the real ones.
Harsh criticism coming from your parents is not a real obstacle, Fear is also not a real obstacle , imposter syndrome is also not a real obstacle.
You should be running into real obstacles and then dealing with them. When was the last time you faced real failure instead of replacing it with your imaginary failures?
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