HOW TO DEAL WITH UNCERTAINITY

 By Matata Mercy

When you find yourself in a situation that is uncertain? What do you do? You will most likely try to get to the place of certainty.

 Instead of having that difficult conversation, you will end up staying in that crappy situation for a long time more than you need to. Instead of putting your work out there, you will end up hiding it from others. 

When things around us are chaotic and  overwhelming, we will end up looking for a system that feels ordered and also simple. 

Most of us do this in every area of our life, sometimes find our selves staying in uncertainty voluntarily but such times are very rare and we usually do not actually like it.

 The truth is that  the edge of uncertainty is where we will explore, get curious and also get adventurous, be able to reinvent ourselves. 

You will be able to find unexpected beauty, love, intimacy, and also vulnerability. Everything that we crave only exists at the edge of uncertainty but we find ourselves running away from it but the trick is that we should stay in it.

 It is in the times of uncertainty that we will be able to discover our true value out there. For example if you are entering a new unknown territory that you do not know how it will actually turn out to be. 

You start a new job or change careers or launch a new business or even just put yourself out there in a new social situation.  

Here are some of the things that you will find yourself doing in these circumstances as you respond to uncertainty.

You will find yourself taking part in a lot of research  and being overwhelmed by the amount of information that you are getting about the issue that you are trying to handle.   These are some of the reactions that you might have about uncertainty.

You end up buying books or online courses that you think will help guide you towards combating your uncertainty.

 You will look for teachers or other people that you think will guide you hoping that they will give you some kind of certainty but in most cases this is not the magic pill.

Delaying to make a decision and in most cases this is the most common because you think it is a very hard decision to make.You try to avoid and avoid.

The truth is that it is not easy to deal with uncertainty but there are some practices that can help you tremendously in dealing with  uncertainty. 

One way of dealing with uncertainty involves having a mindset shift.  

The first shift in mindset should be that uncertainty is not something bad or something that should actually be avoided. But just a natural part of doing something that has meaning. 

You can learn to love, cherish and adore uncertainty.

Lastly if you are unsure of what  path to take just follow your heart or gut and confidently take a direction and keep moving towards it.

The second shift in mindset could be taking uncertainty as a way of learning something new and even grow but not run away from.