HOW TO BECOME A REAL MAN

In the world today men are forgetting meaning of being a man. What does it actually mean to be a man in the world today? 

The media and all other stake holders are trying to pull up women and they do forget that there are other kinds of human beings who are called the men. 

Today, I would like to talk about how to be a man and behave consciously like a man. 

How can men live in the world today and what things should men do to become real men in this world? Here are some ways in which men can live consciously and happily as real men.

1. Real men should make real decisions in life

If you are real man out there, you should be able to make real decisions in life when you are faced with crossroads. 

So the million dollar question that a person can ask is how can a man express his masculinity consciously out there?

 A real man should be able to understand and also respect the power of making choices in life. 

He should be able to know that if he fails to make choices in life, his life will be brought to stagnation and if he can make the right decisions in life, then his life will ultimately flourish. 

When a man makes decisions in his life, he will be able to close some doors and also be able to open some doors in his life. 

Making decisions in life makes a man to focus on his targets in life although there is no guarantee that he will ultimately achieve his dreams and goals in life. 

A real man knows the fact that there is no guarantee that he will actually reach his goal but that does not bother him. 

He simply enjoys that ability to launch his own projects and goals that he wants to achieve. 

A real man does not require the approval of other people before he can start off what he wants to achieve in life. 

A man should be willing to follow his heart to wherever it actually leads him to go. A real man should gain the courage to follow his heart even if the whole world is actually against him.

2. Real men should actually put their relationships as a second option

A man should not make his relationships his first priority. Making his relationships as his first priority will actually make him weak or very dishonest.

 A man who values individuals more than his own integrity will have his values misplaced and will end up being loyal to people that he is not actually supposed to be loyal to.

 A real man is supposed to be a free thinker and he must be able to commit to something that is actually greater than serving only a few people. 

A real man should not accept to be domesticated but he should be able to accept some of the challenges that do come with having greater responsibilities in life. A man cannot perform his responsibilities he will become less of a man. 

One way that a man can lose respect for other people is when he violates his values. Life will always continue to test a man to find out if he puts his loyalty to his values first or puts his loyalty to the other people first. 

There are so many temptations in life which will expose the true royalties of a man. 

The greatest reward that a man can get is his integrity and the punishment that a man will face will come if he decides to consider something else first before his integrity. When a man loses his integrity, he will ultimately also lose his freedom.

3. Real men should be willing to fail

 A man should be willing to fail in whatever he pursues in life. He should be willing to make mistakes and also be wrong.

 A real man will rather try and fail at something than do nothing. The greatest asset that a man has is his self-trust. 

A real man should not worry about failure simply because worrying about failure will actually diminish him.

 Intelligent men do consider the prospects of failing but they do not preoccupy themselves with it. A man should be able to accept that if failure occurs, he will be able to deal with that failure. 

A man will grow more from facing failure than achieving success. Success can never test the resolve of a man like failure does. 

Although success does have its own challenges, a man will learn more about himself when he takes on challenges that do involve risk.

 When a man plays safe, he will lose his vitality and also his edge will also be lost in the process.

4. A real man should be confident

A man should act and also speak with a lot of confidence. A man should also be able to own his attitude. 

A man does not adopt a confident posture simply because he knows that he will succeed but he also knows that failure is also a likely outcome.

 When the odds of success are clearly against a man, he will still continue to exude confidence. 

This is not because he is ignorant or that he is suffering from denial but because he is trying to prove to himself that he has the strength to actually overcome self-doubt.

 This will help him to build his courage and also persistence which are the two most valuable allies. 

A man should be willing to be defeated by the world and he should accept to be overtaken by things that are beyond his control. But he should not allow himself to be overtaken by his self-doubt. 

A man should know that when he stops trusting himself, he will surely be lost and he will be able to surrender to fate when it is necessary but will not surrender to fear.

5.  A real man should be able to express his love actively

A real man should be an active giver of life and not a passive receiver. A man should be the first to initiate a conversation about love and also he should be the first to ask for what is needed. 

If a man waits for another person to make the first move then it is actually very unbecoming. 

When a man starts hesitating, the universe will not respond positively to him. 

When a man is in motion, the floodgates of abundance will open. It is the duty of a man to share his love with the world. 

A man should stop suckling the energy of others and instead he should start radiating energy himself.

6. A real man should face his fears

For a real man being afraid of something should be the reason why he should actually do that thing. Fear is a way of testing a man. 

When a man tries to hide his fears, he knows that he has fallen from his true self. He will feel weak, depressed and also helpless. In this kind of state no matter how hard a man tries to comfort himself and also achieve a state of peace. 

He will not be able to overcome his inner feelings of dread. When a man starts facing his fears, he will feel at peace and a man should become a friend of risk at all times. 

A real man does not run and hide from the tests of fear. A man should be able to turn towards his fears and also engage with his fears boldly. A man will either succeed or fail but a coward will not even make any attempt. 

To a real man, specific outcomes do not bother him but he puts his focus on his sense of direction. 

A man will feel more like a man when he is moving in the direction towards his fears.

7. A man should be able to honor the masculinity of others

When a man sees a friend of his venturing into something that is bound to fail, what should he do? 

Will he just look on and see his friend face failure.  In this kind of situation, the man should be able to encourage his friend to move on. 

A real man knows that it is important for his friend to move on and then learn from the experience of failure.

 A man should be able to honour his friend’s decision to make an attempt. A man should not deny his friend the chance of learning from the experience of failure. 

A man should just offer guidance to his friend but he should know that for his friend to be able to develop self-trust and courage, he should be able to fail repeatedly. 

The path of a man is filled with many obstacles and these obstacles help him to discover what is truly important to him. 

The path of a man should include more failures than successes. With the repeated failures, a man will learn how persist on goals that are worthy and then also let go of the goals that are not worthy of him.

 A man should be able to handle being knocked down multiple times. Every physical set back that a man experiences should help in advancing his spirit and that is enough for him.

8. A man should be able to accept responsibility for his relationships

A real man should choose his lovers and friends consciously. 

A real man should seek the company people who will challenge him and also inspire him. He should be able to do away with friends who will hold him back. 

A man should never blame other people for his relationship issues. 

When are relationship is not compatible with the path of his heart, he will break up the relationship and depart without any guilt or blame. 

A man should hold himself accountable for the relationships that he does get involved in. 

A man should hold other people accountable for their behaviour but he should also hold himself accountable for tolerating the behaviours that other people are displaying. A man should teach other people how to treat him by the relationships that he does allow in his life. 

A man should not fill himself with negative or destructive relationships since he will be committing self-abuse by doing that.

9. A real man should die well

A real man should be able to express himself to the fullest by developing his inner strength.

 He must also be able to learn how to share his love with the world without holding back anything. If a man has achieved satisfaction, then he can be in peace with death. 

But if he fails to do that, death will still become his enemy and it will continue to haunt him all the days of his life. 

A man can not die well unless he does live well. A man will be able to live well when he is able to accept his mortality and he is able to know that his physical existence is temporary. 

When a man begins to see death as his ally instead of his enemy, he will be able to know himself better. A man is not ready to live unless he is able to accept that he is already dead.