HOW TO DEVELOP MENTAL RESILIENCE THAT CANNOT BE BROKEN

In this world we go through tough times and the only thing that can get you out of such situations is when you develop some good mental resilience and attitude that can help you to stay strong irrespective of the situation that you are actually going through. 

Here are some great tips that can help you develop your resilience mentally and take you to the next level in life.

1. You should increase your tolerance for pain

In order to effectively train your mind so that it is resilient, you will need to increase the amount of pain that you can actually tolerate. 

You can achieve this by letting go of how things are actually supposed to be and then accepting what is actually happening to you.

 You should develop the habit of having no expectations or the feelings of entitlement in your life. These are life perspectives.

 When you feel that you are entitled to something better or you want something that is easier in life, you are going to place yourself in a position where by what you actually expect will not be met. 

This kind of behaviour will cause you to be hurt and it will also make you lose control of your life.  

When you realise that in life some fights are involved if you want something, it means that you are now at peace with the problems that life actually throws at you and you are now gaining control over how you actually do feel and think about your life.

 This kind of mindset will help your tolerance increase since you will most likely be focused on the solution of your problem rather than the pain that you are actually going through.

2. Make sure that you do have a powerful support system around you

Sometimes we do feel like we can actually do it all ourselves but the truth is that having a support system in our lives will help us more than we actually would imagine. 

If you are going to develop mental resilience that is powerful, you will need to know when actually to ask for help from people who are willing to help you. 

There is actually a lot of strength in knowing that you are actually feeling vulnerable and do actually need someone’s hand to help and support you.

3. You should start taking responsibility for your own feelings

It is easy for very many of us to blame others for the things that did not actually work out well in our lives.

  To most of us this habit of blaming others takes the pain off our shoulders and creates excuses for our failures. 

This habit of blaming others does not actually build our mental resilience. You should learn how to take responsibility of your feelings when they have been hurt by someone else and this kind of attitude will build your mental strength.

 This will help you build your emotional toughness on the most scary feeling that you will face and that is pain.

5. You should develop the habit of being alone.

Many people fear being alone and they think that if you are alone something bad is happening to them or they are not loved much. 

If you truly want to develop your mental resilience, you will need to learn to be alone and also you will need to have some time just for yourself at least once in a week. 

When you spend time alone, you are more likely to think deeply about your life and also you will be able to avoid distractions in your life.

 Iam not trying to say that you should completely isolate yourself from others but if you can just give yourself something like afew minutes to meditate about your life, you will be able to learn how to take control of your life, feelings and most importantly mental strength.

 You should learn to schedule your alone time and this could be just one hour or even just 5 minutes. 

The difference between the successful person and others is not the lack of strength, not lack of knowledge, but it is rather the lack of a will to do certain things.

6. You must learn to love those who actually do hate you

According to the teachings of Buddha, the best way to let go of our pains is to love those who hurt us.  

This may not go well for you but think about it in a different way, when you are able to forgive those who hurt you, you are actually gaining more control over your feelings and also your mindset.  

This is one of the most important aspects that will help in building your mental resilience. You will be able to take away the power of someone else who gained it by hurting you. 

If you are able to overcome the anger and the need for revenge, the actions of the person who actually hurt you will not affect you or control you in anyway.